Let’s get real. The past couple months have been a little nutty for me. I feel like a lot has come up that has been really causing me to have to look at and deepen my conviction of what I want in my life and what I’m feeling ready to move forward.
I was talking to a girlfriend a couple nights ago about a particular area in my life in which I was feeling confused. We were discussing a situation in my life that had been kind of taking up a lot of mental space for me, and causing me to question and doubt myself in terms of my ability to know what I really want. As someone who does a lot of inner work, I pride myself on being pretty self aware and typically being able to check in with my intuition and know what I want and go with it, so needless to say I was feeling kind of frustrated about this situation.
I even said to my friend, “I feel like I know I want “x” but it’s like I don’t trust myself to make the right choice or I’m too scared that what I truly want doesn’t exist.”
Her response to me: “You seriously have perfect intuition and don’t give yourself enough credit. You just need to learn to trust yourself.”
Yep. She totally nailed it. I realized in that moment (with the help of my friend reflecting back to me) that I wasn’t trusting myself and my own desires and my ability to be able to move them forward.
Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of areas of my life where I do trust myself, but in this one particular area it’s still a little hard for me. I’m still learning. I’m also still learning to declare what it is I truly want and to believe I can have it….hence the feelings of confusion.
But here’s the thing I’m realizing: confusion doesn’t actually exist.
Hear me out. I’m not saying we don’t ever feel confused. I’m not saying that sometimes it doesn’t feel hard to try to sort through the fears and anxiety and doubts in order to get to the place where we can clearly see what it is that we want. But what I am saying is that deep down we always know what we want, and the notion of confusion is really just an excuse for not committing 100% to our desires.
When you are in a space of being honest with yourself and what it is that you deeply desire, there is no room for confusion.
Confusion only exists when you’re cut off from your higher self, when you’re too caught up in the noise, comparing yourself to others, doing whatever it is you think you ‘should’ be doing, or feeling like you can’t have what it is you truly want.
Confusion exists when you don’t trust yourself to follow through on your deep inner knowing and intuitive guidance.
And it’s ok. We all have times where we feel confused. But the good news is that you always have the power and capability to tap into what you truly want.
Think about it. You know the times when you feel totally ‘on,’ in your zone, completely confident…..those are your moments of greatest clarity. Do you feel confused in those moments? I’m willing to bet that you don’t, because in those moments you are connected to your highest self.
And that doesn’t mean that we don’t sometimes have to wade through the feelings of confusion a little while in order for the clarity to become apparent, but we always know what we want. It’s really just about getting to the place where we either feel confident enough to declare it and go after, or enough pain or discomfort or frustration has come about to push us away from what we don’t want.
And what I want for you is to cut down on that time spent in pain, discomfort and frustration — because that’s not what we’re here for.
Check it out and let me know what you think!